Month: February 2015

Mindful living / Simply living / Living within your means

A change in our circumstances has meant that we need to now be more careful about each dollar that we have.  And only spend when entirely necessary. So, that means no more weekly Thursday sushi lunches for me and the boys and not buying organic items because it is just too expensive and living with the items that we do own and enjoying those. This means that we will be able to live within our means until circumstances change back in our favour and also that we can continue to work on the dream of the build of our new house on 5 Ha we own on the Peninsula. Does that mean I have to be more frugal? Do I have time to bake my own bread? What about general happiness attained through gorgeous little things I might see and want or a Soy Chai Latte from the local cafe? Or does that have to change too? Can I meditate before I shop as a default? I’m not a big shopper and am, overall, already …

The day the earth shook

Four years ago today the earth shook beneath us for a second and more devastating time. The first time was September 4th 2010 (which was felt more keenly in my neck of the woods) and then again on February 22nd 2011. Christchurch was rocked, shaken, split apart, and reconstructed as a result. Communities were dissolved and destroyed. People and families were torn apart. It was and still is a shocking event for us. Which led me to think about change. As a mother this happens constantly and I forget. I forget that the phase one of my children is in is just that – a phase (or a “critical phase” as Teacher Tom says). I always feel that this is it and I will always have to deal with this developmental moment forever and I despair, get frustrated and struggle. But then a month later it’s different. So here is a reminder to myself: Change is constant. Change is constant. Change is constant. Drum it into my head! It happens slowly and quickly (and both …

Late Summer Vignette

Here’s a selection of things I am loving right now. Got to always find bliss and me in micro moments. Summer Fete Magazine – love!/ Jo Malone Peony & Blush Seude Perfume (thanks mum!) / homegrown Roma and Sweet 100 tomatoes / beautiful sage ready to dry and add to Autumnal pumpkin soups / David Austin’s Winchester Cathedral (Auscat) rose – it’s meant to be white and one plant has come up with some pink (like the parent rose Mary Rose) and one rose flower is half and half! so beautiful / some cornflower / a new batch of Sweet Almond Oil from Lotus Oils which I use as a cleanser.

Sacred Spaces

It is the middle of February and it is feeling very autumnal already. The trees are starting to turn, new apples and pears are hanging from our trees and nature is starting to turn inward again. This is a good time to review and renew my sacred spaces. So that I have places to go when I need to turn inward during the cold months to come. Sacred spaces are those places in my life that are just for me. With motherhood comes great change and this includes places that were once “mine” now becoming for the kids too. The pantry was once lovely and organised and easy to use and now it is organised to keep the children safe and the food (or appliances) out of reach – so it is not as efficient as it could be. Bits of our house have safety latches on them, things I would like to have on show are away or out of reach and there is a multitude of children’s things (books, toys, nappies, clothes) that are …

Relentlessness

Relentlessness – that has been my go to word for the struggle days of motherhood, the days when I don’t want to do it anymore or do any more – like today. The constant keeping on going and going and going. There just isn’t anymore room for me within it all. It was hard today to even have a few brief moments to myself  – like to pee meant a little being was attached to me. One was teething which made the day so much harder. But, then there is everything else that I have to keep going on. It’s a full time job being a mother and homekeeper (how do those parents do it who work full time too) and so many little (and big) things to tend to everyday. And a constant need to find something I need/want, to buy something that might make our lives better or just need (like omg! new undies!) but maybe at the moment there are just more things on my plate than normal. I have an anxious personality and …

What I’m reading.

Reading happens in micro round here. Short moments of a few pages here and there. This is not helping the general staccato feel of life at the moment. With two toddlers (3 and 1) it is hard to get any time to focus on one thing for long and deep. There are a multitude of things that need to be done and it is hard to prioritise sit down time. I must more often. When I find a good book I do read it at night to help sleep and last year managed to get through 20 books! At the moment I am flicking through or actually reading a number of good reads: The Winter edition of Town and Country – mostly for some pure upper class Englishness and style and a lovely article on the Delevigne sisters. Fete Magazine Spring – I love this magazine from the very talented Fete team Annabelle Kurslake and Jane Cameron. These two provide beautiful homewares and interiors as well as lovely new eats. I have already ordered the …

I am a mother who..

Sometime last year I came across this post from Ronnie (on her old pinkronnie.com blog) from theshoemakersdaughter.co where she lists the type of mother that she is. At the time I did it too borrowing from her great list and adding some more of my own. You can read this below. You can also read more of Ronnie’s great Life Captured work over at www.lifecapturedinc.com/blog – it’s very inspiring. I am a mother who doesn’t like getting up early. I am a mother who does funny dances for my children to make them laugh. I am a mother who sings with my children. I am a mother who loves making new train track designs or Duplo buildings. I am a mother who tries to observe and wait. I am a mother who needs order to cope with the chaos. I am a mother who is trying to let go of the need for order. I am a mother who gets impatient. I am a mother who gets grumpy. I am a mother who gets angry. I am a mother who …